Ten years ago online dating was highly stigmatised and considered pathetic and nothing one would necessarily share in public; whereas today it has become very popular. Websites and apps to search for and communicate with potential romantic partners are now offering access to an almost limitless amount of potential dates and relationships. According to recent surveys one in five relationships now starts online.
In a culture based on non-human contact, online dating has taken it to another level in terms of removing small talk from conversations or eradicating human contact at all; leaving people strive for affection that is ever so often missing in an online interaction. Instead of love we are to experience loneliness and depression caused by the sparse and sterile social exchange within these services. Furthermore, online dating encourages people to deny each other human attributes causing a disturbing symmetry: People tend to give human qualities to objects and to treat each other as things.
As online dating services feature the segmentation of individuals into types (aggressive, submissive, etc.) and body parts (face, torso, breasts, bums and biceps‘) people become products framed onto a screen, competing on a marketplace. A marketplace where criteria checklists cause compulsive behaviour of scanning people, checking and sending messages at a vast speed.
Online dating services promote a “relationshop” rather than relationship, leading to a society resting on the early pillars of alienation and isolation.